You walk into Bub’s Pub. The floor has soaked up just as
much beer as the regulars; the corner door is sometimes propped open to carry
the echoes of conversation and the scent of light beer throughout the narrow
space. The bar is long—walk past the restrooms and you have a side door to slip
out into the parking area or you can continue into a fenced off place for
smoking or just enjoying a mild evening. Yet the most apparent, the most
affecting part of the Bub’s Pub experience was Bub himself, who loomed behind
the bar instead of tending it, a towel over his shoulder, with kind eyes
refracted by his thick glasses. Like most bartenders, his wisdom came from his
recollection, his memory etched with moments and names, news and rumors. He’s
like the entire cast of Cheers rolled into one—Cliff’s knowledge, Norm’s humor,
Sam’s steady hand behind the bar.
Larry “Bub” Bates was a friend of mine, but friendship is a
fickle word with many levels. I cannot and will not attempt to prove that his
passing strikes me with the same level of grief as it does his family, his
closest friends, and the more-regular-than-me patrons of Bub’s Pub. We knew
each other by name, we exchanged stories and good natured, sports-related
ribbing. I drank in his bar, hell, he even sold my books at his bar and refused
to keep any portion of the sales as fair profit for doing so, which tells you
all you need to know right there.
The news of his passing proved that his life was
communicable, contagious—that his life cannot truly be gone because it’s spread
among thousands of people in varying levels of degree. Indeed, those closest to
him will feel the sadness in ways that I cannot truly share, but every memory
someone has at Bub’s—maybe they met that special someone at the jukebox, or saw
that big sports moment, or celebrated that big slowpitch softball victory—I think that his
passing tinges those moments with a measure of sadness, knowing the man that
stood watch while so much life unfolded in front of him is now gone,
prematurely, and undeservedly. I know I'll remember him fondly, and the next time I go into the pub, it'll seem just a bit more empty and sad without him. I know I'm not alone on that count.
Everyone is mortal. I think the best we can achieve is to
have that communicable life, one that spreads through friends and family and
beyond. Bub achieved that in intangible ways through his kindness and spirit but also in a tangible one—it sits
on a nondescript corner in Sandoval, a white, pedestrian looking building filled
with memories and love and the echoes of an excellent man who cannot be
replaced—but he can and will be remembered thanks to the many lives he touched.
1 comment:
Very well written. thank you
Vickie Newcomb
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